are you to blame…
Posted in: LIFE, To Know Him, blind introspect, growmy goal with this series is not to point a finger, nor is it to simply play the blame game, but to create a conversation between all of us about a subject that is shunned. In the wake of all that is taking place around the country, who are the men sharing with, if they share at all?
Why must a man be strong all the time? What does strength look like? Do we confuse “macho” with manhood?
I know growing up I was told “men don’t cry, suck it up”, I’m sure you’ve heard this before. My question is, if men don’t cry, then what do they do? I never got an answer! But, I can tell you what I saw in my community. I saw men drinking, I saw men abusing thier spouse, I saw men angry for no reason, I saw men “take it to the streets”. Is that the subsititute for dealing with ones emotional state? Does this work?
Again, I’m not saying to be a wimp & allow every leaf that blows to arrest you emotionally & render you useless, but I’m saying that there has to be a release valve where you can legally & without hurting yourself or anyone release emotionally!
Ladies, I know you don’t want a softy, I know you want a manly man, a protector, the strength of the home, but let me ask you this… CAN YOUR MAN COME TO YOU AND SHARE HIS HEART, HIS FEARS, HIS HURT & PAIN WITHOUT FEAR OF YOU THINKING HIM LESS THAN A “MAN”?If he can, does he know that he can?
Look around you, do you produce a cooperative environment for your man, your husband, your sons to share without fear of redicule? Do you foster an environment for a healthy emotional life of those men in your life that you love? Fathers, husbands do you?
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I consider myself a manly-man,yet do not hide my emotions! If something touches my heart,it shows! God did not create passive,boring,wimpy men…he created warriors!! What are we willing to fight for? Me? The love of Jesus Christ,a chance to serve Him,my faith,my family and friends,the chance to witness,the oppressed and down-trodden,and against evil,abuse,and the neglected!! Read “Wild at Heart” by John Eldridge..every male between 10 and 150yrs old should read it,and any woman who wants to understand men better!!
You can share anything with me anytime you want
THANK YOU BABY!!!! I am so grateful that you will hear me, not judge me, or love me any less…
I was blessed to have worked in a therapeutic environment the last few years that promotes exactly that. I must say it has done wonders for me in my personal relationships and just how I interact with people in general. At this point in my life If I can’t share how I really feel with “her”, which includes everything from the emotional spectrum then she is not the one for me.
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